Parenting With An Addicted Co-Parent w/Claire Martin
Claire Martin is the founder and host of “Strong, Single and Human” Podcast. Claire started her podcast during lockdown because she didn't think social media presented the real life of a solo mom.
In this interview, we talk about how she became a solo mom later in life. Claire describes her challenges with co-parenting with her son's addicted father.
She also shares some important tips for any solo mom who might find herself co-parenting with someone who is addicted.
Claire encourages you to:
- set boundaries when dealing with an addicted co-parent
- educate yourself about addiction
- network with other parents and connect with available resources
- take time for yourself
One of the ways Claire copes with the challenges of raising a child solo is that she not only set personal goals but she also involves her son in her goal-setting efforts.
She also practices gratitude as a way to create peace within herself.
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Transcript
Summary: J Rosemarie Thanks for joining us, Claire. I know this is a topic that's close to your heart, so I'm really glad you're here to talk about it.
Claire Martin Thanks, J Rosemarie. I'm happy to talk about it. I know there are a lot of solo moms out there who are co-parenting with an addictive partner, and I want them to know they're not alone. J Rosemarie So, can you tell us a little bit about your own experience? Claire Martin
Sure. My son's father is an alcoholic, and we've been co-parenting for seven years. It's been a really challenging experience, but I've learned a lot along the way. J Rosemarie What are some of the biggest challenges you've faced? Claire Martin One of the biggest challenges is the unpredictability of it. Some days, things are going great, and we're able to co-parent effectively. But other days, my son's father is drinking, and it can be really difficult to communicate with him. Another challenge is the emotional toll it takes on me. I'm constantly worried about my son's safety, and it's hard to see him go through this. J Rosemarie I can imagine. That sounds really tough. Claire Martin It is. But I've learned to set boundaries for myself and for my son. I don't let my son's father's drinking affect me as much as it used to. And I've also learned to lean on my support network for help.
J Rosemarie That's great advice. It's so important to have a support system when you're going through something like this. Claire Martin It is. And I'm so grateful for my friends and family who have been there for me. J Rosemarie
So, what are some tips you would give to other solo moms who are co-parenting with an addictive partner? Claire Martin First, I would say to educate yourself about addiction. The more you understand about addiction, the better equipped you'll be to deal with the challenges of co-parenting with an addict. Second, I would say to set boundaries. It's important to set clear boundaries with your partner, both for your own well-being and for the sake of your children. This means setting limits on your contact with your partner, as well as on the amount of time your children spend with them. Third, I would say to communicate effectively. Communication is key to any successful co-parenting relationship, but it's especially important when you're co-parenting with an addict. Be clear and direct in your communication, and avoid getting into arguments or debates.
Finally, I would say to seek support. It's important to have a support network of people who understand what you're going through. This could include friends, family, or a therapist. Talking to someone who can offer you support and guidance can make a big difference. J Rosemarie Those are great tips. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your advice with us, Claire.
Claire Martin You're welcome, J Rosemarie. I hope this helps other solo moms who are going through the same thing. J Rosemarie I'm sure it will. Thank you again for being here. Claire Martin
